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Logic please
Is it just me, or is the whole "references" system fucked up? You have to ask three people you probably haven't exchanged a half-dozen personal conversations with to judge your character and worthiness to succeed in the world, and then you're not allowed to see what they said about you -- no, no, it's SEKRIT -- and then, just in case that's not obnoxious enough, you need these references for EVERYTHING. To get into schools, to get scholarships, to get jobs...
So here's me, thinking about grad school, wondering what scholarships I can apply for. But you know what that means? That means I need to ask three people, two of whom I've already pestered multiple times, to give me references -- THREE references, maybe FOUR, each. Am I the only one who thinks that's kind of twisted and unfair to the people writing the references?
If you know a teacher, you should ask them for a reference. They should write one and give it to you. Then can you take it home and put it in a file with all your other references and other such important documents. Then if you need to apply to eight scholarships and a grad school, you pull out your favorite references and copy them and send them.
And, HORROR OF HORRORS, if they don't have anything good to say, they can just refuse. Or you read it and sigh and don't send that one to anyone.
Why all this unnecessary secrecy and difficulty? How many times do I have to ask the same professors to please validate my pitiful existence?
So here's me, thinking about grad school, wondering what scholarships I can apply for. But you know what that means? That means I need to ask three people, two of whom I've already pestered multiple times, to give me references -- THREE references, maybe FOUR, each. Am I the only one who thinks that's kind of twisted and unfair to the people writing the references?
If you know a teacher, you should ask them for a reference. They should write one and give it to you. Then can you take it home and put it in a file with all your other references and other such important documents. Then if you need to apply to eight scholarships and a grad school, you pull out your favorite references and copy them and send them.
And, HORROR OF HORRORS, if they don't have anything good to say, they can just refuse. Or you read it and sigh and don't send that one to anyone.
Why all this unnecessary secrecy and difficulty? How many times do I have to ask the same professors to please validate my pitiful existence?