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I have not fallen off the face of the planet, despite any internet hiatus you may have noticed. I have performed an Emergency Move (we found out we had to move about 48 hours before we actually did) and the end result is that I now have a longer/costlier commute, but I live in a beautiful 3-bedroom 2.5-bathroom house for the same price as my dinky 900-sq-ft 2-bedroom apartment. Our internet should be hooked up tonight, at which time I will promptly resume playing Tales of the Abyss fixatedly. I'm 40-something hours in and the prodigal princess is returning to Baticul ~~and if I don't write Asch/Natalia it won't be for lack of daydreaming about it~~.

Also, something I forgot to post over the holidays:

Fact: After tens of thousands of my parents' dollars went to my sister to go to an out of state university so that she could dither around indecisively for two years before finally deciding on an education major, my sister has decided that she doesn't want to go to graduate school, essentially making her education major pointless. She confided in me that she would like to have kids and then stay home and raise them instead of working.

Fact: I sat around for a half-hour during Christmas listening to my sister and my aunt gush about their Coach wallets like they were auctioned off by the Louvre. And you would think they were, from the prices. My sister wants to spend $700 on a pocketbook. My aunt admitted that this was more than she paid on their new refrigerator. When I expressed ~~disgust~~ disbelief, my sister said, "Kim doesn't understand because she doesn't have any friends," then after I stared her into shame, clarified that she meant friends who indulged in Coach merchandise obsession.

Conclusion: My sister had better pray she meets a millionaire.

Secondary conclusion: I don't think I need friends like that.

Tertiary conclusion: I feel much better about my spending habits. Oh noes, I want to buy a PSP so badly?! Well, I could buy myself four PSPs for the pocketbook my sister wants to buy. One PSP, please.

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Ergh, seriously. I don't get it. $700 for a pocketbook???? Dude, I've had my wallet for several years and it cost MAYBE $20. I don't get how much better it can be unless it's, I dunno, laced with GOLD. And as far as I'm concerned, a $700 pocketbook would be just as easy to lose as a $20 one. The only difference is that you'd feel 40 times as worse, because you lost so much more money.

So true. >_> I think the most I'd ever pay for something like that is $100, and even then only if it were really fantastically beautiful. Otherwise, I'm fine with a $30 purse, because, uh, it's just for carrying things around in, and hopefully not making you look like a freak.

... okay, I've always thought your sister is kind of weird, but this proves your sister is INSANE.

1. $700 is most of my freaking RENT.
2. (I'm almost certain to get flamed by SOMEONE for this) WHY IN THE HELL would you go to school for FOUR YEARS ++ just so you can have kids and stay home with them??? I mean, seriously, I'm staying home at the moment due to circumstances, not choice. It's like these people who apply for a job, tell their manager that their eventual ambition is to be a stay at home mother and then wonder why they don't get the job? Seriously, people, you're telling the guy that it's going to be a waste of time hiring you because you're planning to up and quit. What is WITH that?
... sorry, I got rant all over you. And yes, feel much better about your spending habits. Seven hundred dollars for a freaking pocketbook?!?

It's incredible how out of touch with reality she seems. XD And FYI, this is the same sister who was given a pair of diamond earrings by my mother, and then refused to wear them because they "didn't match with most of her outfits" (they're WHITE!) and then promptly lost them -- then got another pair of diamond earrings from my mother, and didn't wear them, and lost them -- and finally got a pair of cubic zirconia earrings this year. So my mom? Is not helping.

I don't understand spending so much money on things like purses and shoes. 14$ sandals pls!

Unfortunately, shoes are actually my one weird line -- I have high arches and stuff, which makes it virtually impossible for me to buy a pair of $14 sandals. I had an adventure last summer where I tried, and they rubbed my feet so raw before I even got where I was going that I bought a second pair of cheapo sandals to wear, and then the second pair of cheapo sandals rubbed my feet raw, and I spent the whole day switching between them whenever my skin got aggravated enough to start bleeding.

So, yeah. I wound up buying a pair of sandals that cost $120, but they fit like a dream and I can't regret it for a minute. I would still be wearing them now if I didn't go to work every day in the freezing cold with snow piled up to my shoulders in some places on the side of the road.

All of this is of course irrelevant to my sister, whose mere $150 purse is not causing her to bleed, thus forcing her to buy a $700 purse.

But in your case, at least, different expensive shoes are somewhat of a necessity of comfort. She just... wants it? I dunno, I was kind of grr when I bought my $27 purse. ahaha I'm such a cheapskate.

Your sister's intention to breed and sit alone is enough to get me raging.

Congrads on the new apartment! :D

I know, right? The more I know about her, the more I think she shouldn't be having kids period, so it's all the more fail that she intends to do nothing but have kids.

Thanks though :3

Really? Really? Dude, to each their own. If she wants to be a stay at home mom. Fine. But why didn't she put all her energy into finding a husband as opposed to wasting money on school! And honestly, even if I wanted to be a stay at home mom, I'd still get a lot of work experience and maybe some higher education under my belt, 'cause you don't know a person 'til you marry him anyway. If you wind up with an asshole or a guy you can't live with, you don't want to stay with him just because you don't have any credentials and no way of supporting you kiddies.

Seriously though, she better start cruising the right places for a man because in this day in age it’s very hard for couples to follow the tradition married life method and make ends meet. Let’s not even factor in her crazy spending habits.

And yes, you should totally feel better about your spending habits. I’m also glad that you found a better place. :3

The real kicker is that she doesn't even want to do grad school, and she knows she doesn't, but she's looking and applying anyway because she knows my mother will flip out if she shares her august goal of being a broodmare. I'm sure that when she's got $30k in debt and buys $700 purses regardless, she'll be prime marriage material.

But thanks~ :3

I love purses. I love shoes. I love Coach. But my Coach bag was purchased by my mother in the Bahamas for $25 and looks and feels real enough for me. $700 for one pocketbook? Just...no. Your sister would do well to develop expensive taste after she marries that millionaire. She'd do even better to start living in the real world.

I was angsting over the vacation because I didn't feel like I'd saved enough money, and I had this conversation with my stepfather--

Me: It's just that after working most of the year, I only managed to save up ten thousand dollars...
John: What? Are you kidding? It takes most people years to save up that amount of money.
Me: --Really? It doesn't seem like a lot.
John: Really. Some people never do. I have a grown brother with a daughter who came crying to me to lend him money last week cuz he's flat broke.
Me: Well, your brother...
John: And your sister will never see that much money in her whole life.
Me: Okay that is true.

My sister and I got identical savings from my parents when we went away to college. I managed to go the better part of my undergraduate career before I even skimmed more than the surface of it.

My sister had spent hers down to the last penny by the end of her first semester. XD

I can see liking the Coach stuff - everyone has something that they're willing to spend a lot of money on, and if I were inclined towards purses, I admit that the Legacy collection is really pretty. However, one has to take into account one's own financial situation and how that factors into what one can afford. Most people can't afford 700 dollar wallets - if you have a job that lets you afford it (or your spouse or whoever supports you is in a comfortable position) and it's what you like, well, yes, how you spend your money is up to you. I just know that most of the people I've grown up with can't afford Coach bags and it's something that you just have to accept. Eating is more important than hobbies, whether that hobby is Coach bags or gaming, and people need to be conscious of that and keep in mind what their financial situation is.

They're nice and all, but I'd never even consider buying myself a purse for -- hell, for half that much money. Never! Unless I won the lottery.

My sister doesn't believe in sacrificing. Ever, pretty much. Financial situation? Whatever. She wants those new $80 earrings to go with her other fourteen $80 earrings.

Wow, fast move! I'm glad it worked out okay, commute not withstanding. Maybe you'll get a car eventually and that won't seem so bad?

I think everyone has their things that they are willing to spend too much money on because the quality seems worth it to them and that to people who don't share their "thing" it seems CRAZY.

But I would never spend that on a pocketbook. I'm not sure I even know what a pocketbook is. If I found a purse that suited all my needs and was EXACTLY my taste and I just loved it. I would pay as much as....$40 I think. That's right..that's what I'd pay for the PERFECT purse. Typically, about $10-$15 and I only replace them when they break.

I can't imagine the getting married and having babies and staying home route of life. I just can't. Not even on accident.

PSP sounds very reasonable. *nods*

That's my goal -- get a license, get a car. I have enough money saved up from this last year of working that I can probably afford to lease a real one.

I might pay $100 if there was -- I don't know. The perfect pocketbook and I was deserved a treat for whatever reason. And I'd probably set aside money for it for a month or so instead of just going in there and buying it. But yeah, generally I'm thinking more... $20. And I only need one of them.

Yeah, I'd say it is very good. I mean, I know it seems like it should be more. If I actually kept a budget I should be able to save more too...

Of course, I was paying off my student loans (super agressively) and then I was paying off a car (also agressively), so this is the first time I haven't been paying anything off while working. It could be that I save more. I know people I work with don't seem to be able to save much.

Also, depending on the kind of car you want, you could buy it outright with $10,000 you know. Heh. I think mine was about $11,000 a few years used. And it's a Bonneville which is a decent level of car. Granted, I have no idea what the car market is like there. It might be higher on average.

O.o 48 hours?? Jeeze. Down in my neck of the woods, it's legally required for a landlord to give 30 days' notice. (Not that everyone follows that. You know. Since the government is lousy at making sure people know the laws around here.) I'm glad you made it okay!

As for the Coach bag...if I found the perfect purse for me, I could possibly see spending $70 for it. But *$700*?? O.O ....has anyone ever mentioned to your sister that no stay-at-home mom can afford that sort of thing and that even if she could, the kids would destroy it in a week?

...I'm probably not one who should talk about spending too much on a thing, though. I, uh. If I had it, I'd take that $700 and be buying fabric for costumes; as it is, most of the ones I have now cost a minimum of $200 for materials. ^^;;;

(Edit: ...typo.)

Well, we moved from an apartment, so maybe those rules are less strenuous? But now we have a house. ♥ It's awesome.

But seriously, even a bag half that price -- a quarter of that price -- I simply would not even consider buying ever. My sister doesn't live on this planet, though, and she has no concept of sacrifice. If she wants something in her price range, she'll just buy it. Saving? What's that? And then if it isn't in her price range, she'll nag other people to buy it for her. She said she's going to try and get new boyfriend to buy it for her for their six month anniversary. Uh, try tenth year anniversary. Seriously.

It could also be that it's a regional thing--Delaware is weird about a lot of stuff. It could even depend on the contract you singed for your lease...if they refused to return the security deposit, I'd try to find out about the local ordinances. Security deposits are usually enough to make that worthwhile.

....and your sister makes me thing she might be looking for a "new new boyfriend" for the six month anniversary. At least I HOPE he laughs in her face!

You know what that much frivolousness reminds me of? Dubai.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_World_(archipelago)

They're all "OMG GUYZ WE HAVE SO MUCH MONEY, LET'S BUILD ISLANDS. LOTS OF ISLANDS."

/headdesk.

My sister would totally do that -- except without actually having the money to do it in the first place. XD

Wow, great a quick move! :D

$700 for what? Well if I do my $=£ conversion right that's a lot of money. And if you don't mind me saying...superficial. Each to their own I suppose.:/

£355 (The conversion rate)is roughly how much I get per third for my semester. And that's going towards fees.

She's crazy. XD I'm not shy about saying it. It's a ridiculous thing to spend that much money on, no matter how I look at it.

My monthly salary is a bit over half your sister's pocketbook price, and mind you, over here I'm no blue-collar worker living in destitution. It's quite amazing when you know how immense the difference of living costs across the globe. O.o

Jesus Christ, your sister's something!

Please write Asch/Natalia! Congrats on the sweet house, though uh, awkward notification there.

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